3 Steps To Survive the Holidays While Grieving
The holidays can be very stressful for people who have just experienced a loss. This is a time of joy and celebration, and people in mourning are usually not inclined to celebrate anything. Holidays can be a painful reminder of their loved one's absence. Here are three steps that can help you deal with grieving over the holiday season:
Step 1 - Learn to say no
Most people will understand if you're not feeling up to attending parties or family gatherings. Some relatives and loved ones might insist because they want to help you heal but it's important to do what you feel is right for you. If you feel a gathering or celebration will be too stressful and overwhelming, decline invitations and focus on something else.
Step 2 - Spend time with friends
Spending time with people who haven't experienced the same loss and are in a positive state of mind will help, especially if the family is going through the same grief. Spending time with people not connected to the tragedy allows you to focus on yourself instead of helping others go through their own pain. You can also take a small trip away from your home with your friend to experience something new and positive.
Step 3 - Have an excuse ready
Some people attend parties and family gatherings believing they handle it but quickly find themselves overwhelmed. Many force themselves to stay because they don't want to appear rude. The best solution is to have an excuse ready and leave as soon as you find the press of crowds unbearable. There's no reason to feel guilty about leaving early and most of your friends and family will understand.