How To Write A Condolence Letter To A Friend?

By: David Tindall
Monday, December 21, 2020

The loss of a close friend or family member can be devastating. People need as much support as they can get during this trying time, especially from their trusted friends. Unfortunately, sometimes people are just too far away and can’t visit their grieving friend to offer some comfort. At Tindall Funeral Home, we believe a handwritten condolence letter will help in such situations. Here are some tips on how to write these letters:

1. Refer To The Deceased Directly

Some people try to avoid mentioning the deceased in condolence letters, using vague terms or avoiding their name completely. That can come across as stilted and awkward, which means the recipient doesn’t receive any sort of comfort from the letter. Refer to the deceased by name and directly. Don’t shy away from their mention and focus on the positive.

2. Offer Condolences

Express your sympathy and compassion wherever possible. Everyone has experienced grief at least once in their life. Think about what you would have liked to hear under such circumstances and offer the same assurances to your friend.

3. Share Happy Memories

Share happy memories and admirable qualities of the deceased. For example, if you visited your friend and remember their father’s sense of humor, share the memory of how he made you laugh. These kinds of stories will make your friend smile and gain some comfort. It is always nice to hear your close acquaintances praise someone you love and admire.

4. Offer Assistance

Offer real assistance to help your friend overcome your grief. Tell them when you are available to talk and offer them things like food, a place to stay if needed, some time, etc. Make sure your offers are realistic and you can commit to them. 

Contact us at Tindall Funeral Home through our online form or call (315) 468-5521 if you want to know about our services and need advice.

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