Helping Children Understand Loss
Everyone deals with the loss of a loved one in different ways. Adults struggle to adjust to the new reality and take time to recover from the loss. However, change can be especially difficult for children because some of them are just too young to understand the concept of death. At Tindall Funeral Home, we believe that parents and family members can help children adjust to the change in a healthy and meaningful way. Our experts have some tips for family members facing this situation:
1. Be Honest And Compassionate
Adults often underestimate a child’s ability to understand death and its implications. It is important to be honest and straightforward when you communicate the loss to the child. Speak in plain terms and avoid any vague references like ‘gone away’ or ‘in a better place’. These terms can mislead and confuse the child, especially if this is their first encounter with death.
2. Convey The Right Message
There are four points you should make clear when you discuss death with a child. You need to mention the cause of death in as simple terms as possible without making it traumatic. Ensure the child understands its irreversibility and finality before taking time to explain that death is an inevitable fact of life.
3. Maintain Routine As Much As Possible
Children rely on stability and consistency, especially when they are distressed. You need to make sure they have well-developed routines and ample support from adults. This is especially crucial if the child has lost a parent or both parents as they are the most important part of their support structure. Ask the aunts, uncles, and adults close to the children to step in to help.
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